“Savior” Misappropriation: Scam Alert
After a lot of observation, I realize why many relationships are doomed before they can bloom into anything that produces fruit in the relationship needed to sustain its bond. For a myriad of reasons we, have allowed ourselves to get the order of things, out of order. Both men and women, but mainly women tend to find ourselves (yes, me included); with a “Savior” mentality. But, we look for the Savior in the wrong place(s).
The man is invaluable to our lives as that “missing piece” needed to round-out our fantasies and lives, this we know and what makes our world’s go around, regardless of what we “say”, we don’t want or need. I don’t need a root canal and because I don’t, I don’t make mention of it. If you are bringing up the point that you don’t “need a man or a woman”, because it cuts both ways, then you are actually the one who wants one the most or else you wouldn’t keep bringing up the topic.
The word Savior is reserved for the one and only – Jesus Christ. He is our Savior and he aligns the rest of our lives from that starting point. I see a lot of misery in people because their expectations are that once they find that special someone or they finally marry that soulmate, they put more value and time into that person and not the lover and keeper of their souls. Never lose sight of where that blessing came from. Had it not been for the Lord on our side…? That man or woman is just that – them – people. They can’t be everything that you need for them to be, no matter how hard they try, they will fail – they will fall short of our expectations of them and vice versa. You are setting yourself up for failure if you think that they can save you. No one has all the answers or all they ways to make you happy – God does but we don’t want to trust him unconditionally but put that burden of a mere human being and wonder why we keep getting let down. You are giving the power to a being that is unable to handle what it is that has been giving to them, they are incapable of doing what God can and must do for you.
We are relational beings and seek out friendships and relationships from the time we enter into this world. However, the Pastor, our spouses, our friends or even family can’t stand in stead of the place that is reserved for Christ and Christ Jesus alone. No one can do for us what God can do and that place of highest reverence needs to be reserved and observed for only him.
All relationships are battle-tested; especially marriage because it is in direct correlation to how we are to be with God – dedication, fidelity, trust and honor. Our training in God is what trains us for the nuptials. If you can’t be faithful to the things of God, then how will you learn to be faithful in any other area of your life? God wastes nothing.
At times we find ourselves boiling hot and anger kindled at our loved ones; in the same token, we find ourselves sometimes even mad with God, although we wouldn’t like to admit that to anyone, even ourselves. But, those who know how good he is and has been, quickly repent and get back into fellowship because we know that his best intentions are towards us. We can’t scam God and think that we will receive his blessings and he not receive his Glory.
If you want to save yourself a lot of headaches and from having hang-ups when it comes to the matter of the heart – lean to not to your own understanding and in all your ways acknowledge God and stop asking something of other people that you are unable to give yourself. Yes, we all like to think of ourselves and the perfect helpmeet or provider, but we all have faults and shortcomings and when we esteem another person as the end-all be-all of our lives, we are only setting ourselves up for failure because our living and being is in God the Father alone. It is indeed a blessing to find that love of our lives, and it eludes many for this very reason we discuss today.
There is one Savior and his name if Christ Jesus. In that is where you find the peace and the love that you are searching for and everything else of value and purpose in life flows from that vine down to our branches.