Women who presume to be the “man” in a gay relationship; or even a heterosexual relationship, tend to look worn and get worn-out because they assume the role that takes them to be once, twice, and three times the woman that comes with ease for a real man.
God hardwired each species to be designed for a certain role, and to bear a certain load. When we step outside of those parameters, it takes a toll on the body and psyche.
Stay in the body that you were both designed and equipped with, to get maximum performance in that role.
Role playing is just that – Playing.